Help – We All Need Each Other

“Holiness grows so fast where there is kindness. The world is lost for want of sweetness and kindness. Do not forget we need each other.”

~ Mother Teresa


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Where would we be without others? Regardless of our differences, we are one human family, learning how to get along with each other.

It’s not unusual for family members to quarrel. But we work it out. The same challenges face us as members of the family of mankind. And, we’re working things out, thanks to those of us who value diversity and understand that we need each other as we are, not converted to some kind of sanctioned sameness. Viva la difference! as they say.

This is our final blog based on an alphabet of spiritual literacy developed by Frederic and Mary Ann Brussat1. I’ve been inspired by their list and developed my own elaborations. These are best considered as meditative morsels and digested as nourishment that can deepen your momentary experience of connection with life and communion with each other. In fact, we are always connected, it’s inherent in life, but the epidemic of loneliness assaulting our human species testifies to a special irony: we need each other to remember that we need each other, to overcome this alienating side effect of civilization.

Here are the final seven key words on Brassat’s list.


“Silence is golden.” Why do we say that? Because we understand that spirit is always active, alive in the silence and spaces of our lives. When we learn to honor the unseen and unheard, we expand our experience from the literal to the poetic and become able to embrace a largeness to life that is unobtainable in the material world alone. In the silence we grow and dream and love and share.


Where would we be without our teachers? Indeed, we probably wouldn’t survive. We come into this world completely vulnerable and defenseless. Parents and teachers help us equip ourselves to live successfully and happily. The best teachers are those who also understand the inner journey and can guide us from the inner trail they are walking, at least a few steps ahead of us.


Life is transformation. From the spectacle of a caterpillar morphing into a butterfly to the everyday unseen regeneration of cells in our bodies, every moment of life includes some degree of fundamental change. It’s easy to forget that if our lives become dulled by routine, but we can recapture the magic of any moment. How? It could be as simple as voicing an appreciation for some simple gift we are receiving right now. Like the air we are breathing, the sun shining on us, a breeze cooling us.


Unity is not sameness. Think of an orchestra. Each member plays their instrument, using their unique skills, and – by all following the same score and heeding the conductor – can create beautiful music together. True unity is diversity in harmony, a reunion of separation that enhances every part.


The Bible warns that “without vision the people perish.” Vision is more than seeing; it includes intention, peering over the horizon of the moment and extending a force of creativity to establish an energetic foundation for the material form of our daily living. With vision, we can build miracles, because we’ve started where life always begins, with the invisible, the unseen, the genius of spirit awaiting articulation in the 3D world.


We lived in wonder as children and it’s not too late to reclaim our heritage. It’s only resignation to a perceived sameness that dulls obscures the wonder of a moment, oppressing with unconscious beliefs that turn novelty into routine. “What if” is the core question that can unlock our capacity for experiencing and growing wonder.


It’s natural to yearn for what we want. But, what do we want? Behind all “things” are feelings. When we understand that true desire lives in the soul, we can surrender our quest to feed that hunger from the material world. Jesus said, “I have meat you know not of.” He yearned for God, for an ever deepening connection in oneness with his Father within. This is the natural yearning that lives in the heart of desire. When we accept this, we can release our addictions and return to the center point of connection and Love.

We all need each other to live. Look around, notice who is here for you, and marshal an attitude of gratitude for what these friends and family and teachers and healers are bringing you. And, in the same breath, appreciate what you are giving them. We live, truly, in a free sea of generosity, giving and receiving Love to expand our awareness and experience of the overwhelmingly magnificent gift that life is.



Help – Exploring Your Life

“We shall not cease from exploration, and the end of all our exploring
will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time.”

– T.S. Eliot


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Life is meant to be explored. That means leaving our comfort zones for the unknown, one moment at a time.

This is the third blog elaborating on an alphabet of spiritual literacy developed by Frederic and Mary Ann Brussat1. They’ve compiled a helpful list of qualities to remind us of the power of spiritual expression; I’ve taken inspiration from their descriptions and crafted my own.

Treat each of these as a mini-meditation, reading slowly and allowing the meaning to flow into you. Words can bring medicine into our lives and expand our awareness, especially when we open to the meaning woven between the lines and the words and the characters. Without space, there would be no meaning. That in itself is a helpful realization, midst a world that values form so highly.

We can navigate this object centered world very differently when we deliberately emphasize relationships, and come to experience ourselves as “one with” rather than “separate from.” That expanding sense of union is the core of all spiritual questing.

Here are the next seven key words on Brassat’s list.


We won’t feel confident to explore until we feel safe. Our life journey is from known to unknown so the necessary priority is to feel genuinely nurtured. This happens through loving relationships and courtesy of our growing connection with Source, which I prefer to call Love. When we feel held in the embrace of Love, from within and from without, our natural urge to explore can be safely followed.


What a wonderful quality. Openness allows us to enjoy new experiences. It adds color to our lives, the joy of novelty and the unique challenges of learning. Unfamiliar territory can seem thrilling or intimidating but with our connection to Love strongly in place, we can forge ahead with the trust and spirit of an innocent child.


Peace is an inside job. When we culture an atmosphere of peace within ourselves and test it throughout the rigors of daily life, we become a peacemaker, bringing peace through our thoughts, words, and actions. Physicists inform us that courtesy of “quantum entanglement” we are always affecting everyone and everything. Peace within us contributes to peace in the world.


A life without play is arduous and stressful. It’s a condition that not even meditation can cure. Rather than adding play to work, we can re-format our entire life as play and include work in a playful context. When we remember that most of what we encounter is illusory, we can relax and enjoy the play of consciousness, starring in our own life story, and finding novel ways to turn each moment into an opportunity for playful learning.


The heart of question is “quest.” Questing is an attitude of going beyond known answers, living in the spirit of discovery. It’s fine to not know from one moment to the next. In fact, a core competency for spiritual mastery is surrendering the need to know and becoming comfortable with not knowing. Socrates said, “I know one thing, that I know nothing.”


Reverence for life is natural and it’s infectious. Anyone who is in love with life is inherently lovable. Nothing stops any of us from deepening our primary relationship with life itself and there is nothing we can do that is more powerful for upgrading all our relationships. When we put this first, we learn that the love we share with others is all based in a mutual love for life.


Our fear of the dark is based in ignorance. Without night there could be no day. Everything casts a shadow, including every individual. It’s difficult to see our own which is why evolved friends and a spiritual teacher are so helpful. We can invite illumination, we can welcome our shadow and go fearlessly into the dark of our lives when those moments come. Even the dark can be nurturing, when we’re secure in our relationship with Love.

There is no greater adventure than exploring our lives. We can climb mountains, build families and businesses, vacation in exotic locations but what shows up consistently in every situation is you. Adopting the attitude of a life explorer turns every moment – from mundane to magnificent – into a learning adventure.



Help – Enjoy Your Challenges

“If you aren’t in over your head how do you know how tall you are?”
– T.S. Eliot

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Challenges come to us all, but not all of us have learned to welcome them and allow them to help us grow, let alone actually enjoy them.

In last week’s blog we introduced an alphabet of spiritual literacy developed by Frederic and Mary Ann Brussat1. They’ve compiled a very helpful list of qualities to remind us of the power of spiritual expression, and how to turn challenges into opportunities. I’ve taken inspiration from their descriptions and crafted my own.


It’s easy to be grateful when we pause to contemplate the many blessings we enjoy, starting with the freedom and time to read something like this. Gratitude lives at the heart of mindfulness, which is the simple practice of being fully present in each moment.


There are two kinds of hope. Most often, hope is wishful thinking and diminishes vitality. The other kind of hope is based in your personal connection with Love, which acquaints you with the hopeful nature of Love, always expanding at the heart of consciousness.


The Good Samaritan story provides a reminder of the essence of hospitality. True happiness is impossible without helping others. “No man is an island” means that we are all connected. When we help others, we are also helping ourselves.


Einstein said that imagination is more important than knowledge. Sadly, our educational system emphasizes knowledge and rewards linear thinking. Our brightest minds usually bail on formal education, for that reason. But it’s never too late to begin exercising our imaginal muscles and learning how to consciously create our lives in alignment with Love.

Joy is natural. Although our modern civilization has invented countless paths to joy, from shopping to sex, none can fully substitute for the simple joy of living. But we’re impervious to that experience, and vulnerable to the seductions of those substitutes, until we commit to life itself and fully embrace our experience moment to moment… because that’s where joy is always found, here and now.


Justice is not a legal matter, ultimately it’s a term for the “rightness” of life. Some say that life isn’t fair, and that’s true to a certain degree. Bad things do happen to good people. But that doesn’t obviate meaning. There are reasons for everything, well beyond our capacity to understand. Fortunately, we don’t need to. We can be advocates for justice by living in harmony with life and choosing to express Love, as appropriately, in every situation.


Kindness is never a mystery; all of us can recognize it, both when we receive kindness and when we give it. Kindness is a tender gift that can change lives in an instant, especially when it is given into the face of hatred as a powerful method for conflict resolution.


Listening is more than hearing. We know when someone really hears us, which means they are listening for meaning between the words. True communication is always an act of intimacy which can reward our willingness to be vulnerable with unimaginable gifts of reciprocating Love.


Love pervades everything. Those who imagine we live in an unfriendly universe have divorced themselves from this power, this spirit which animates everything. Love is the essence of all, taking form in every form, and filling every moment with the potential for sweet communion, until we finally know in experience that Love is what we are.


In Man’s Search for Meaning, Victor Frankl wrote, “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” This is meaning. Meaning is not a concept, an achievement, even a belief about oneself. Meaning is proactive, the exercised ability to choose for oneness.

These brief descriptions of ten qualities can remind us of the wealth of inner experience that is available for those who choose to explore those realms. Why? Because we need both inner and outer resources to successfully meet the challenges life brings our way.

Imagine evolving to the point where you can face a challenge with an attitude of gratitude and the learned ability to enjoy every one!


  2. Victor Frankl from Man’s Search for Meaning

The Holographic Universe and the Law of Relativity

“The objective world does not exist, at least not in the way we are accustomed to believing. What is ‘out there’ is a vast ocean of waves and frequencies … and reality looks concrete to us only because our brains are able to take this holographic blur and convert it into sticks and stones and other familiar objects that make up our world.”    Dr. Karl Pribram, renowned neurosurgeon, psychologist and author



“Everything is inherently without meaning. Except for the meaning we create… that’s how our brains evolved – by seeking patterns and making meaning, everywhere and all the time.”      Thomas Asacker, entrepreneur, speaker, author

“Today we say that the law of relativity is supposed to be true at all energies, but someday somebody may come along and say how stupid we were.”  Richard P. Feynman, renowned theoretical physicist


Our universe appears to be one of relativity, a duality composed of polar opposites created by a holographic-mirroring effect. What appears as objective is a subjective interpretation of a holographic blur perceived and named by our minds. As highly-acclaimed quantum scientists have said, “There is no out there, out there!”


In the Zen symbol of yin/yang, both polarities exist simultaneously in each other. The holographic blur can only ever be both subjective and objective, guaranteeing that, in our three-dimensional dense reality, no polarity can be eliminated — only dominated. So there is always an “is not” in every “is”.  A thought in any given moment is only one perspective in space in one moment of time. Thinking, judging, deciding – are all like clouds in the sky, changing shapes and creating pictures that our minds define according to beliefs picked up along life’s journey. So thinking that anything is a certain way seems to only ever be a play of consciousness, for the sake of itself, with delight in the pretense allowed by the relative field’s blur of an illusory subject and object.

There is, in truth, no “subject” and no object” as separate and different from one another, truthfully demonstrated in the Unified Field by meditators plunging the depths of human existential experience. There is only one source consciousness, including us as individuated players in this computer-simulated relative reality, incessantly programmed with the software of our beliefs nano-second by nano-second by nano-second. If you want a print-out of your beliefs, just look at your life. It’s available to meditators in gorgeous, crystalline technicolor which shimmers in its ecstatic reverberation of the one source consciousness.

A quote from Master Charles demonstrates the bottom line:

Whatever we think about it… makes no difference.
It simply is as it is… always and forever.
Here and now… within this wakeful moment…
we are as we are… and it is as it is.
All else is nonsense.


Here’s an exercise to see how well you understood this blog. Below are two quotes which could describe it. Which one is more accurate and why?

1. “Einstein, in the special theory of relativity, proved that different observers, in different states of motion, see different realities.”
Dr. Leonard Susskind, renowned physics professor, author, and speaker, and the first to give a precise string-theory interpretation of the holographic principle (1995).

2. “No matter how hard you try to teach your cat general relativity, you’re going to fail.”
Dr. Brian Greene (theoretical physicist, professor, author of “The Elegant Universe” and star of the PBS series based on the book).